Category Archives: Wednesday Wishes

Wednesday Wishes: Number Twenty-Two

Have you ever read one of those “Ten things your guy wished you knew” or “Ten things your mother-in-law would never tell you but thinks you should know” (though in many cases—unfortunately for you, there’s nothing your mother in law wouldn’t tell you). Well I wanted to create a lists of things that those of us who struggle with mental illness wished the rest of the world knew—and hopefully get insight from my support team about what they wish I knew!

Number Twenty-Two: I wish you how phrases like “you’re crazy” “he must be insane” “I’m going to end up in the pysch ward” make me feel. This is actually a very personal one. I feel like each consumer will have different words that bother them and some they actually laugh about and find funny. For example, the only one that really makes me uncomfortable is joking about a “pysch ward” because having to be taken to one unwillingly was a fear of mine for a long time and it increases stigma about needing to go to an inpatient treatment center.  Most of the other stuff, I joke about myself. So start the conversation, find out what bothers them and what they can joke about.  Here’s a picture below to get the conversation going.  Funny or offensive?

 

Funny? Or Offensive?

Funny? Or Offensive?

 

Disclaimer: Not all of these thought will reflect all people, in the same way not all “Ten things your guy wished you knew” would relate to my husband—some will not even relate to me. They are thoughts/concerns/opinions I’ve heard when talking with fellow adventurers along the journey that is mental illness.

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Wednesday Wishes: Number Twenty-One

Have you ever read one of those “Ten things your guy wished you knew” or “Ten things your mother-in-law would never tell you but thinks you should know” (though in many cases—unfortunately for you, there’s nothing your mother in law wouldn’t tell you). Well I wanted to create a lists of things that those of us who struggle with mental illness wished the rest of the world knew—and hopefully get insight from my support team about what they wish I knew!

Number Twenty-One: I wish you would stop deciding to “try and see if you really need your medicine”.  You do. Life is better for everyone when you take it.

Love, Sidney (and I’m sure other members of my support team)

[First “Wednesday Wish” from the support team viewpoint!]

Disclaimer: Not all of these thought will reflect all people, in the same way not all “Ten things your guy wished you knew” would relate to my husband—some will not even relate to me. They are thoughts/concerns/opinions I’ve heard when talking with fellow adventurers along the journey that is mental illness.

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Wednesday Wishes: Number Twenty

Have you ever read one of those “Ten things your guy wished you knew” or “Ten things your mother-in-law would never tell you but thinks you should know” (though in many cases—unfortunately for you, there’s nothing your mother in law wouldn’t tell you). Well I wanted to create a lists of things that those of us who struggle with mental illness wished the rest of the world knew—and hopefully get insight from my support team about what they wish I knew!

Number Twenty: Following in line with Monday’s post….I wish I could express to you how I feel.

To help with that!  I’ve uploaded pictures of the feelings list I discussed!

Let me know–do these helps? Do any particular words resonate with you?

 

Disclaimer: Not all of these thought will reflect all people, in the same way not all “Ten things your guy wished you knew” would relate to my husband—some will not even relate to me. They are thoughts/concerns/opinions I’ve heard when talking with fellow adventurers along the journey that is mental illness.

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Wednesday Wishes: Number Nineteen

Have you ever read one of those “Ten things your guy wished you knew” or “Ten things your mother-in-law would never tell you but thinks you should know” (though in many cases—unfortunately for you, there’s nothing your mother in law wouldn’t tell you). Well I wanted to create a lists of things that those of us who struggle with mental illness wished the rest of the world knew—and hopefully get insight from my support team about what they wish I knew!

Number Nineteen: Make “my” limitations “OUR” limitations when we are in your social network. For example, after we drive 9-10 hours to get to Sidney’s parents’ house I can’t jump immediately into dinner/socializing/big plans. I need at least 30 minutes to relax and get out of my anxious car mindset!  If Sidney takes this time with me, and tells his parents WE need a break, I feel less self-conscious. By presenting us as a team, he helps prevent judgment or misunderstanding.

Disclaimer: Not all of these thought will reflect all people, in the same way not all “Ten things your guy wished you knew” would relate to my husband—some will not even relate to me. They are thoughts/concerns/opinions I’ve heard when talking with fellow adventurers along the journey that is mental illness.

337 W. 11th Street

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Wednesday Wishes – Number 18

Have you ever read one of those “Ten things your guy wished you knew” or “Ten things your mother-in-law would never tell you but thinks you should know” (though in many cases—unfortunately for you, there’s nothing your mother in law wouldn’t tell you). Well I wanted to create a lists of things that those of us who struggle with mental illness wished the rest of the world knew—and hopefully get insight from my support team about what they wish I knew!

Number Eighteen: Support the wider mental health community, such as my husband wearing the “One Wave at a Time” bracelet, or my mom talking to and supporting others struggling. This reminds me that you know this is a “wider” issue that affects millions. That you don’t think it is just “MY problem”

Disclaimer: Not all of these thought will reflect all people, in the same way not all “Ten things your guy wished you knew” would relate to my husband—some will not even relate to me. They are thoughts/concerns/opinions I’ve heard when talking with fellow adventurers along the journey that is mental illness.

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Wednesday Wishes: Number 16

Have you ever read one of those “Ten things your guy wished you knew” or “Ten things your mother-in-law would never tell you but thinks you should know” (though in many cases—unfortunately for you, there’s nothing your mother in law wouldn’t tell you). Well I wanted to create a lists of things that those of us who struggle with mental illness wished the rest of the world knew—and hopefully get insight from my support team about what they wish I knew!

Number Sixteen: Two weeks ago my “Wednesday Wish” was for family and friends to go along with my weird OCD habits.  Now that I’ve given you two weeks to practice that, I want to take it a step further. When going along with our habits, do it without comment and as if it’s “normal”.  Just like my parents’ favorite bible verse to quote to my siblings and I, “Do everything without complaining or arguing”.

I’m often embarrassed and self-conscious about these habits and fear that you will resent me for them.  When you go along with these habits as if they are normal, you can help alleviate these feelings.

For example, like most individuals with OCD one of my weird habits is a germ phobia. There are random things cause intense anxiety if someone does not wash their hands after. If those around me can just wash their hands (preferably twice!) after these things, it not only will lower my anxiety but also relieve the guilt and embarrassment I might feel about the habit.

Disclaimer: Not all of these thought will reflect all people, in the same way not all “Ten things your guy wished you knew” would relate to my husband—some will not even relate to me. They are thoughts/concerns/opinions I’ve heard when talking with fellow adventurers along the journey that is mental illness.

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Wednesday Wishes: Number Fifteen

Have you ever read one of those “Ten things your guy wished you knew” or “Ten things your mother-in-law would never tell you but thinks you should know” (though in many cases—unfortunately for you, there’s nothing your mother in law wouldn’t tell you). Well I wanted to create a lists of things that those of us who struggle with mental illness wished the rest of the world knew—and hopefully get insight from my support team about what they wish I knew!

Number Fifteen: Respect that my illness is my story to tell. Please protect my privacy and desires about what you share and with whom. If you’re not sure how I feel about it, ask.  Better to have a clear conversation and expectations upfront than to try to rebuild trust later.

Disclaimer: Not all of these thought will reflect all people, in the same way not all “Ten things your guy wished you knew” would relate to my husband—some will not even relate to me. They are thoughts/concerns/opinions I’ve heard when talking with fellow adventurers along the journey that is mental illness.

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Wednesday Wishes: Number Fourteen

Have you ever read one of those “Ten things your guy wished you knew” or “Ten things your mother-in-law would never tell you but thinks you should know” (though in many cases—unfortunately for you, there’s nothing your mother in law wouldn’t tell you). Well I wanted to create a lists of things that those of us who struggle with mental illness wished the rest of the world knew—and hopefully get insight from my support team about what they wish I knew!

Number Fourteen: Please go along with my OCD compulsions and obsessions. I know it’s inconvenient for you to have to pump the gas to an odd number ($12.00 or $12.50 can send me into a panic!). But trust me, I’d rather not have to do it either, but I do.

Now I’m not saying to avoid encouraging treatment, but if I am working on managing my illness and the compulsion only asks for a minor change for you—go Nike and “just do it”. You’ll save me a significant amount of anxiety.

Disclaimer: Not all of these thought will reflect all people, in the same way not all “Ten things your guy wished you knew” would relate to my husband—some will not even relate to me. They are thoughts/concerns/opinions I’ve heard when talking with fellow adventurers along the journey that is mental illness.

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Wednesday Wishes: Number Thirteen

Have you ever read one of those “Ten things your guy wished you knew” or “Ten things your mother-in-law would never tell you but thinks you should know” (though in many cases—unfortunately for you, there’s nothing your mother in law wouldn’t tell you). Well I wanted to create a lists of things that those of us who struggle with mental illness wished the rest of the world knew—and hopefully get insight from my support team about what they wish I knew!

Number Thirteen: Sometimes I feel like my life is a continual pattern of “Friday the 13th”. Let me throw myself a pity party sometimes (you are of course invited–as long as you’re not cheerful).

(Yeah I’ve covered this idea before, but had to do something with “luck” for the 13th one!)

Disclaimer: Not all of these thought will reflect all people, in the same way not all “Ten things your guy wished you knew” would relate to my husband—some will not even relate to me. They are thoughts/concerns/opinions I’ve heard when talking with fellow adventurers along the journey that is mental illness.

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Wednesday Wishes Number 12

Yes I realize—its Thursday. Almost Friday really. But I didn’t post this yesterday and I owed it to you. So it can still be a “Wednesday Wish”, because I  WISH I had gotten it to you on Wednesday. : )

Have you ever read one of those “Ten things your guy wished you knew” or “Ten things your mother-in-law would never tell you but thinks you should know” (though in many cases—unfortunately for you, there’s nothing your mother in law wouldn’t tell you). Well I wanted to create a lists of things that those of us who struggle with mental illness wished the rest of the world knew—and hopefully get insight from my support team about what they wish I knew!

Number Twelve: In the moment, I can’t see the ‘good intentions’ behind your words.  So right or wrong, finding the right words I can hear in a crisis is EXTREMELY important.

Advice from a handout by DBSA

What Hurts: What do you want me to do? I can’t change your situation.
What Helps: Tell me what I can do now to help you.

What Hurts: You’ll be fine. Stop worrying.
What Helps: You are not alone in this. I am here for you.

What Hurts: Here’s my advice….
What Helps: Talk to me. I’m listening.

Disclaimer: Not all of these thought will reflect all people, in the same way not all “Ten things your guy wished you knew” would relate to my husband—some will not even relate to me. They are thoughts/concerns/opinions I’ve heard when talking with fellow adventurers along the journey that is mental illness.

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