Wednesday Wishes Number 12

Yes I realize—its Thursday. Almost Friday really. But I didn’t post this yesterday and I owed it to you. So it can still be a “Wednesday Wish”, because I  WISH I had gotten it to you on Wednesday. : )

Have you ever read one of those “Ten things your guy wished you knew” or “Ten things your mother-in-law would never tell you but thinks you should know” (though in many cases—unfortunately for you, there’s nothing your mother in law wouldn’t tell you). Well I wanted to create a lists of things that those of us who struggle with mental illness wished the rest of the world knew—and hopefully get insight from my support team about what they wish I knew!

Number Twelve: In the moment, I can’t see the ‘good intentions’ behind your words.  So right or wrong, finding the right words I can hear in a crisis is EXTREMELY important.

Advice from a handout by DBSA

What Hurts: What do you want me to do? I can’t change your situation.
What Helps: Tell me what I can do now to help you.

What Hurts: You’ll be fine. Stop worrying.
What Helps: You are not alone in this. I am here for you.

What Hurts: Here’s my advice….
What Helps: Talk to me. I’m listening.

Disclaimer: Not all of these thought will reflect all people, in the same way not all “Ten things your guy wished you knew” would relate to my husband—some will not even relate to me. They are thoughts/concerns/opinions I’ve heard when talking with fellow adventurers along the journey that is mental illness.

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